How to build self esteem of children?
Building self esteem is a key aspect of child development, as a child with higher confidence is bound to do much better than someone with greater academic skills. Children always look up to their parents for an assurance and words of praise on everything they do or learn, the right response can boost them and give them the courage to believe in themselves.
Boosting self esteem need not always be about praising or giving them rewards, showing them respect, feedback on everything they do and by keeping an open communication with them.
The significance of building self esteem in a child is the consequences, as it turns a shy child into a confident one, it also helps a child in seeing that failure is not the end as well as pumps up his zeal to do better. Boosting the confidence in a child is all about teaching him to believe in himself and that he can achieve anything if he wants.
While every child needs confidence boosting and constant pumping from their parents to feel good about themselves and to keep up with their good performance, there are some children who are in far more need of self esteem pumping. Some children often feel the pressure due to their inability to learn fat, to cope up their academic performance and to deal with their social behavior, such children face serious confidence and self-worth issues.
Key to building self esteem of a child is to make him feel secured, protected and loved, in spite of his failure and success.
Allow your kid to fail. Children often tend to fail and then feel the pressure of not meeting the expectations, which is why if you will show them that failing is not the end you will boost their low esteem and push them to try again. Let them try tasks even when you know they are bound to fail, as this will let them feel the power of trying new things.
Point out the things they might not have noticed themselves, such as tell them how nice it was of them to keep their room clean or the effort they were putting in by cleaning their own dishes.
Biggest point to keep in mind when the intentions are to boost the confidence and self-worth of a child is to limit down the criticism and to avoid blaming. Let your child know what was his mistake, but you need not be loud, complaining, criticizing and rude. When you sit with your child and talk to him about his errors as well as how he should work on them, you are not only showing him his failures but also helping him know that he can repair or if not, can start again. An open communication instead of heavy punishment also boosts the self esteem of many children and does not let them feel bad about themselves.
When Acknowledging the good behavior or performance, let your child see it in your yes, your act and words. Hug him, smile at him and say words like ‘you are a good kid’ or ‘you make us proud’.
If parents show that they believe in their child, the child itself feels boosted and strong about himself.
