Should parents spank their children?
Various studies have proved that majority of the parents don’t want to spank their children but they just don’t know what else to do. According to a famous physician, the act of spanking makes the child more violent and aggressive. They will make use of the violent measures to solve their tribulations more and more, which also increases a concern in the social community.
Studies have also shown that the children those who have experienced spanking tend to have low self-confidence and experience depression more often. Given below are some of the alternatives you can choose instead of hitting your child:
* If you are enraged enough to want to spank your child for his mistake, then its better you give yourself some time to calm down. It has been found that some parents just make things worse by getting too much stressed out.
* Spanking children is often a result of stress and pressure exercised by parents during their day. Thus, it is important that you do regular exercise, go for long walks or may be doing some yoga that will help you to relax and stop you from taking out your personal anxiety on your child.
* Parents make use of spanking when the child misbehaves even when he has been warned repeatedly. When you know that your child is ignoring your warnings try another technique, such as treat your child gently and talk to him in detail. Try to make your child understand what you exactly want your child to do but in a gentle yet firm manner.
* Use a softer approach o teaching, such as if your children are not keeping their shoes in the proper place, gently show them how to do it. Then ask them to follow what you have just taught them, as children often learn best when they are handled softly rather than with an unnecessary hitting.
* It becomes very crucial that you make use of the logical consequences that relates to the behavior of your children. For example if your child has broken the windowpane of your neighbor instead of spanking him, make use of alternatives like mild punishment, prepare their favorite dish and deny serving them that or stop talking to them. Let your child know that misbehaving or bad behavior comes with consequences. Often such steps make more impact on a child than what a spanking does.
* Next time your child does something wrong rather than spanking them ask them to make up for there mistake or wrong doing. If they have fought with or have been rude to someone older to them, ask them to apologize, be polite and regret their mistake.
* In a situation where your children are talking back at you, there are strong chances that you might be forced to spank them. Leave them room and avoid hitting them back, let them know that you will not be responding to them unless they realize their mistake and feel sorry for it. Children find it hard when their parents are not responding to them, thus they make sure they do not put themselves in a situation where they have to face silence from their parents.
* You should not lose your temper and start smacking your children, when they do things they should not be doing instead you should treat them kindly. Distract them by taking them for a walk and make them hear out what they did, let them talk their side and tell them what options they have to re-correct their mistake.
* The temper of the children is enough to irritate you and they usually act this way when they feel helpless. Give adequate time to your children if you expect them to follow your wishes. Let them know they have you and there is nothing to fear or get angry about, as they can talk to you anytime they want and about anything that bothers them.
